8/6/26 Live Session Recording (Module 6)

8/6/26 Reflection

There’s SO much to say about Brahmacharya! I have never previously thought about privilege and systemic oppression in terms of an “addiction to privilege,” but wow, after diving deeper into this, I can really see the overlap of concepts. Long reflection incoming on my deeper dive into this:

One explanation I found described it like this: “The human brain naturally craves safety, comfort, and predictability. When societal systems deliver these advantages automatically, individuals become conditioned to rely on them. Over time, this unearned ease becomes a baseline expectation. Any attempt to alter that baseline can trigger intense psychological resistance, defensiveness, or a feeling of personal deprivation.” So basically, when privilege is challenged, the ego can go straight to defense mechanisms like denial, gaslighting, or defensive reversal because there is a perceived threat to safety and comfort. Our brains naturally try to avoid discomfort and uncertainty, and we tend to gravitate toward what feels familiar, convenient, and safe. Acknowledging and relinquishing privilege requires us to intentionally sit with discomfort and challenge the assumptions that have allowed us to experience certain things as “normal” or “deserved”.

This explanation resonated with me strongly and helped me to see the ties to addiction. I think both addiction and oppression can be fueled by a fear of discomfort and a desire to maintain control over our environment. Both can rely on defense mechanisms, particularly denial and gaslighting. A person struggling with substance addiction may minimize their substance use or blame others in order to avoid confronting the reality of their behavior. They may also distort or deny reality in order to protect themselves and their relationship with the substance. Similarly, oppressive systems can minimize injustice, deny systemic harm, and gaslight marginalized populations by dismissing or questioning their lived experiences of discrimination. I think there is also a tie to tolerance building and escalation in both. In addiction, a person needs increasingly larger doses of a substance to reach their baseline functioning. In systems of privilege, people need increasingly larger amounts of physical space, financial means, and institutional buffers to prevent them from experiencing the discomfort of the direct consequences of systemic inequality. 

I think this is especially important to consider on our journey to becoming trauma-informed yoga instructors. If our goal is to create spaces that are truly safe and inclusive, we have to be willing to examine the systems and privileges that shape our own experiences and the experiences of others. I think this connects strongly to the practice of satya, or radical truth, and being willing to acknowledge both systemic barriers and the benefits that we may receive from those same systems.

I also think it is important to avoid “spiritual bypassing”, a new term I just learned on this deep dive. Spiritual bypassing is when people use spiritual beliefs, ideas, or practices to avoid emotional wounds, psychological problems, or difficult human realities. For example, saying “we are all one” or “good vibes only” can become a way of avoiding the very real and traumatic impacts of racism, poverty, ableism, and other forms of oppression. Being trauma-informed doesn’t mean creating spaces where everyone is comfortable all the time. Sometimes being truly trauma-informed means being willing to sit with discomfort, acknowledge harm, and recognize realities that may be uncomfortable for us. I don’t think we can create genuinely safe and inclusive spaces by asking people to just “focus on the positive” (toxic positivity). We can absolutely hold space for hope and healing while also being willing to name the harm of what is actually happening.

Thank you for framing privilege in this way (as addiction to privilege) and helping me to gain a new perspective & new vocab terms!

This module provided me with a lot of opportunities for reflection. I attended the session live but had to leave early, just before the Movement Practice. One aspect of Brahmacharya that I'm still contemplating is the question: "Am I showing up for friends and family because I want something in return?" This question is significant to me, and I plan to practice asking myself this with curiosity. My trauma response tends to lead me to "react" rather than "respond," especially concerning this question, which often results in me feeling judgmental about my intentions for being present or showing up for others.  I have a history of finding validation in being there for others.  The validation that I am indeed a good person.  Curiosity led me to ask myself, in this scenario, what would it feel like in my body to give that validation to myself.  I notice that this realization has some grief that walks hand in hand with the want or need for the validation. 

I had never considered the idea of excessive empathy, especially in relation to yoga or Brahmacharya. This perspective on the concept of excess struck me as particularly interesting. As someone who facilitates art and wellness programs in correctional facilities, I often wondered why I felt so compelled to bring healing into these spaces. Initially, I believed my intentions stemmed from my experiences of having many loved ones incarcerated. However, I had never thought of it as an excess of empathy. 

When I viewed my feelings through the lens of Brahmacharya, it was an "aha" moment for me. I realized that it is possible to have empathy while also needing to reflect on my intentions. I began to ask myself whether I was engaging in this work because I wanted something in return, or if I was trying to compensate for my own experiences or those of my loved ones. This insight prompted me to consider the balance between my empathy for others and my own personal growth. 

This module was filled with so many gems.  

this module and reflections on bramacharya brought up so much for me, which was unexpected. if i summarized all of it here it would be a novel 🙂 primarily i came away from this module reflecting on how much of my stealing stems from feelings of scarcity and fear. by default i am so GRIPPY. i had thought of this as attachment (which it also is) but hadn't thought about it through the lens of bramacharya. i'm remembering a time i was so so hungry, couldn't afford more than a meal a day, etc. but also worked at a museum in miami serving very wealthy people. they threw away so much food at museum events. one day my coworkers found me sobbing over a trash can full of food. they thought i was "so full of empathy" because i was crying about food waste, but really i was crying for my own lack, crying out of anger over greed within me and others, crying from shame for eating from the trash. this moment of scarcity and many others have conditioned me to hoard and steal in small ways every day. i used to literally steal, even long after i needed to. it's been wild to me to notice how frequently these instincts still arise in me every day even though right now i'm in a place where these behaviors are nowhere needed. it's so hard to NOT say "this is mine, not yours" when you are conditioned for scarcity, but i admit that there are times when i've chosen NOT to let go of that mindset even when i could. i think this yama will be sitting with me for a while.